About Me

The Struggle I Knew Too Well

I’m Sue Panciocco—parent advocate, coach, and most importantly, a mom who has lived the rollercoaster of raising differently wired kids.

I have two amazing teens with ADHD, ASD, and learning challenges. I also have ADHD myself (diagnosed at 40), and let’s be honest—my husband probably does too. Parenting in our house has never looked “typical,” and for a long time, I didn’t understand how much that was impacting all of us.

I wanted to be the calm, connected parent my kids needed—but instead, I was overwhelmed, frustrated, and constantly walking on eggshells. I blamed my kids for making parenting hard. I snapped. I yelled. And the truth is, some days, I didn’t even like being their mom.

But underneath my frustration was something harder to face: I could see the distance growing between us. My kids’ confidence was slipping. My husband and I weren’t on the same page. Our home was full of tension. I felt like I was failing them, and failing myself.

The Shift That Changed Everything

Everything shifted when I realized I had been so focused on how my kids’ behavior affected me that I hadn’t stopped to see what they truly needed.

They weren’t being “bad.” They weren’t trying to push me over the edge. They were struggling.

And what they needed wasn’t punishment or control. They needed me. Calm. Curious. Compassionate. Connected.

That realization changed everything.

Finding a New Way

When I stopped taking their behavior personally and started looking at it through the lens of ADHD, autism, and learning differences, everything began to feel lighter.

I let go of judgment and picked up curiosity. I traded control for collaboration. I stopped seeing myself as the referee of constant battles and instead became my kids’ partner and guide.

Our home became calmer. The meltdowns didn’t magically disappear, but they no longer defined us. My kids began to see themselves not as “bad kids” but as capable, creative, and deeply loved. My marriage grew stronger too—we found ways to get on the same team instead of working against each other.

And me? I finally started to love being a mom again.

Why I’m Here for You

I know how isolating it feels when everyone else’s parenting advice doesn’t work for your family. I know the guilt, the exhaustion, and the heartbreak of feeling disconnected from your child.

That’s why I became a coach and created resources for moms like you. You don’t need more judgment or “perfect parenting” tips. You need support from someone who’s been there—someone who can give you tools that actually work for your uniquely wired kids.

There is a way forward. It doesn’t have to feel this hard forever. And you don’t have to do it alone.

Ready to Start Your Own Shift?

The first step is to believe that things can change.

That’s why I created my free Masterclass:

How to Stop the Daily Battles and Start Actually Connecting With Your ADHD Child

It’s not just theory—it’s the exact roadmap I used to stop the yelling, calm the chaos, and reconnect with my kids.

You’ll walk away with strategies you can use the very same day.

Start with My Free Masterclass

Looking for Ongoing Resources?

If you’re craving practical tools and quick wins you can use anytime, you’ll love

The Parenting Resource Hub.

It’s a growing library of ADHD-friendly guides, printables, and self-paced resources designed to make parenting feel lighter.

No fluff. No judgment. Just simple supports you can actually use.

Explore the Parenting Hub

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I'm happy to support you in making the best choice for your family.